Why can't I sleep?!

With social networking being as rife as it is, and the world being so easily connected, it's no wonder we're told we live in a world that 'Never sleeps'. So it's even less surprising when we can't actually get to sleep!

It's estimated that 6 in 10 people don't get the sleep that they require each night. Whether this be due to work commitments, noisy neighbours or spending too long on tumblr each night (guilty), it's not good for you! Sleep is just as important for human beings as food, water and air are, so don't let it be neglected! Here are five tips that I've used that just might help you get the sleep that you need each night:

1. Turn out the lights

Our bodies are hard-wired to stay awake while it's light, and sleep when it's dark. That's the nature of our body clock. Exposure to light stimulates parts of the brain responsible for temperature control, hormones and various other functions that either make us feel sleepy, or wide awake.

So when you're staring into your iPhone at 2am, wondering why you can't fall asleep, the answer is literally right in front of you! If you haven't turned off your bedroom lights and TV, shut the curtains and stopped holding your phone 3cm from your nose, then it's no surprise your body isn't going to sleep, it hasn't been told to yet.

2. Don't eat/drink excessively before bed

Having a little snack before you head off to catch some Z's is fine, but having a large meal or drinking gallons of water before you go to bed is going to end up in a bad night's sleep. Having a lot of food is likely to result in more vivid dreams, more often than not nightmares. But drinking excessive water is going to have an equally disruptive effect, in that you'll be heading back and forth to the bathroom every half an hour.

3. Keep your phone away from you

Whilst most of us are in the habit of keeping our phone close by when we sleep (who knows what might happen in the night!) It would actually be more beneficial for your sleep if you kept your phone on the other side of the room, or at least out of arm's reach. Otherwise every time you wake up, you want to check it to see if Larry's liked that picture of your cat with it's face in a slice of bread. If you keep your phone away from you, and on 'do not disturb' mode, you'll sleep a lot more soundly having not disturbed your sleep so much. Larry's opinions can wait until morning.

At the very least, iPhones now have a built in blue light filter, which you can select when you flick up the phones control menu and press the button in the middle at the bottom. An app that achieves this for androids can be found here

If you are so tethered to your phone that you can't keep away, then at least start using this function before you go to bed and turn the lights off. The blue light in our screens places more strain on your eyes and will result in you having a worse nights sleep as a result of that.

4. Keep your room cool

Whilst some of us like to be snuggled up with our hot water bottles, blankets and microwavable stuffed animals, research has proven that sleeping in such warm conditions may not be beneficial to our sleep. The ideal temperature for us to sleep is 60-67 degrees Fahrenheit (15-20 degrees Celsius)

For those of us that won't be able to give up the warmth of our beds, I highly recommend at least having a cool shower before going to bed as it will bring down your core temperature and heart rate. This was one of the major things that helped me change my sleeping habits and made my sleep much more peaceful and less disjointed.

5. Relax!

One of the biggest contributing factors to my own sleep issues was that I wasn't relaxing before I went to bed. I would put on a film or an episode of something and then sit there and watch it until I fell asleep. This of course meant that at some point during the night I would wake up so that I could turn the TV off, which in itself was disrupting my sleep.

But as a whole, not making the correct transition into your sleep will result in your brain staying highly active before bed. This will result in more vivid dreams and will leave you feeling more tired in the morning.

My standard routine is normally to have a shower about half an hour before I want to sleep, get straight into bed and read a chapter or two of a book and then meditate for about 5 minutes after I've turned the light out. Having that time to collect your thoughts in a peaceful, serene environment will put you in much better stead for the next day.

I hope these tips have helped you in some way. These are just some examples of ways I've tried to take control of my sleep a bit more, as beforehand I was regularly falling asleep in public places and suffering from sleep paralysis. Now my sleep is a lot more steady, regular and healthy! Don't hesitate to leave a comment below, or message me on tumblr with any of your concerns!

Metta,

Avazen

8 Tips on Meditation

Meditation is a practice that sits at the heart of Buddhism, but can prove equally beneficial to those of other beliefs. Meditation, at it's most basic form, is just sitting. It's a chance for introspection. An opportunity to gather all your sporadic thoughts from the day and gather them into a neat little basket with a bow on it. We live in a world where everything needs to be done quickly. Social media is constantly buzzing away whether we're awake or asleep and it takes a lot of nerve for us to separate from our mobile phones for more than 3 seconds.

This is why meditation is important. In a world that is constantly on the go we can take refuge in our own little bubble, in our own minds, and take advantage of the serenity and peace that we all have at our disposal. With this in mind, here's a list of my top eight tips for meditating!

1. Start Small

Trust me when I say, no good will come of you going head first into 3 x 45min sessions of meditation a day. While it most likely would be advantageous, and you'd probably notice straight away how it affects your mindset, dedicating that much time from the off will discourage you from practising consistently. You'll wind up meditating in random spontaneous bursts that will no doubt fizzle out after a few weeks.

You're much better off starting with 2-5 minutes in the morning (or evening, or both!) and working your way up week by week until you hit a level that you're happy with. Don't exhaust yourself!

2. Focus on your breath

If the aim of your meditation is to clear your mind for that real sense of clarity and peace before you go to bed, or when you wake up in the morning, then focusing on your breathe is the best method for you. The key with this method is to gradually clear all thoughts from your mind, save for your focus on your breathing. Dwell on the mechanics of your breathe. Imagine it travelling down the back of your throat and into your lungs, and then back out again.

If your mind drifts away onto what you're having for dinner that night, or that rude comment your boss made when you were at work, then that's ok. Just get back on track as soon as you realise, and you will soon find your mind as clear as a pool of crystal water!

(Image from Paul Miller (Youtube))

3. Cultivate a loving attitude

If you're looking for personal and spiritual development rather than a sense of clarity, then Metta Bhavana meditation is for you. It will help to cultivate a loving attitude and provide you with a more positive mindset for the day. It really helps you appreciate people on a more human level, and encourages you to look for positive qualities in people, even your enemies.

4. Don't Stress

As I said in number two, don't worry if your mind drifts away from the goal. Meditation, despite being relaxing, is exhausting for your mind and takes a great deal of focus. Your mind is most likely conditioned to go in whatever direction it wants. It's your responsibility when you're meditating to grab it by the scruff of the neck and bop it on the nose with a newspaper. Don't let your mind rule you, but also don't feel like you've failed just because it has wandered a bit. Just get it back on track and focus on your goals.

5. Look Inwards

Meditation doesn't always have to be about clearing your mind or cultivating positive attitudes. Sometimes it can just be about introspection. Looking inwards and assessing yourself is so valuable to defining who you are as an individual. It allows you to consider your goals, your motivations, what's important to you and who you are. Self-assessment is a key part of becoming a better, more rounded person, and closer to the person you want to be.

6. Use Exterior Assistance

When I say exterior assistance, this covers any objects or environmental changes that you think would help your meditation efforts. I myself like to use candles and some gentle, quiet music to take me to a place where I'm comfortable and peaceful. If you aren't a fan of closing your eyes when meditating (I sometimes don't because I fall asleep easily) then using a candle as a focusing point is a good idea.

7. Sunrise and Sunset

This may just be personal preference, but I meditate when I get up and when I go to sleep. It just feels like the most logical time for me. When I wake up, meditation clears and cultivates my thoughts ready for the day ahead. It's also a good time to just sit and think about what I need to do that day. However, meditation is equally valuable when you're going to sleep. For me it acts as a bridge between my awake mind and my asleep mind. It's a great transition from the hustle and bustle of the day to the peaceful state of mind required for a good nights sleep.

8. Go Outside!

As much as the peace and serenity of your own room is valuable to your mediation efforts, sometimes it's just better to go outside! Sit by a quiet river bank, in your garden, or even up a tree! Being outside in the fresh air with the sounds of nature surrounding you is equally as valuable as meditating in the peace of your own room. Actually having birdsong and water flowing nearby is infinitely better than playing a soundtrack with it on. Give it a try!

(Image from createharmony.co.uk)

I hope this has helped you in some way guys. This isn't meant to be a definitive list, and they also aren't in order. It's just a collection of practices that I've found beneficial to my own meditation! Please leave a comment below, or a suggestion of what other posts you'd like to see :)

Many thanks,

Avazen

Does Yoga have to be spiritual?

(Asked by anonymous)

One of the main reasons that people approach yoga as a new use of their time is because of the deeply rooted spiritual history and practice surrounding it. Many Yoga practitioners relish in the idea that they are not only strengthening and toning their body, but that they are disciplining their mind and soul as well. Now, despite this being an encouraging factor for many who do yoga, not everyone wants to be rooted down in the learning of Sanskrit and meditation.

(Image from chapinyogacenter.com)

Don't ever let yourself be deterred by yoga practice because you're either scared or embarrassed to be involved in the spiritual side of things. Either discuss this with the yoga teacher that you're planning on practicing with, find a more appropriate teacher for you (some focus almost completely on yoga from a fitness perspective), or even practice yoga at home instead with the use of training aids like DVD's and apps. Training on your own will never be as valuable as training with a class and/or teacher, because there is no-one to oversee the poses that you are doing. You may well think that your 'Warrior I' is as steady as a rock, but without anyone to oversee what you're doing, you could find that your arms are as wonkey as a three-legged camel.

So I hope you find the confidence and curiosity to explore the spiritual side of yoga, however if not, then there are plenty of teachers out there who will teach it purely for the physical benefits.

ANY YOGA IS GOOD YOGA!

Buddhists at Christmas

With Christmas just around the corner, I’m sure a lot of you budding Buddhists are wondering what to do with your holiday, given your faith. Obviously, at the heart of Buddhist teachings we know not to seek happiness within material gifts and objects which, let’s face it, Christmas has become all about.

Now don’t get me wrong, it’s still about love, kindness and family (and Jesus obviously, depending on your outlook), and where love and kindness exist, Buddhists thrive like bees in a honey factory. Just because our faith isn’t designed to celebrate Christmas in the same way as others that doesn’t mean we have to spend all twenty-four hours of December 25^th hiding in the shadows of our Bodhi trees. This is on opportunity for us to make a difference for people. Whilst Christmas may not be as strong a force in our lives as others, we can still make it count.

For those of you who are a little unsure on how to address Christmas, here’s some pointers.

1.       Buddhists can still give gifts

There’s nothing stopping you, as a Buddhist, from giving or even receiving gifts. Sure, you might not go for something as lavish or expensive as others, but the real beauty in a Christmas gift is making it something meaningful or sentimental. Don’t just grab some flowers from the gas station or pass on some chocolates you won at bingo. Use this as an opportunity to be creative, and show someone how much they mean to you without having to resort to binge buying on Amazon.

2.       Not everyone has a Merry Christmas

Whilst Christmas is obviously a time to be happy, merry etc. remember that some people aren’t having such a great time. Some people are homeless, in hospital or grieving for those they may have lost. Some people aren’t so well off that they can give their loved ones what they want. So if you really want to make it a Merry Christmas, help somebody in need. I promise you that it will make your Christmas merry as well.

               

This also, is not just limited to people. Make sure to be hot on the case of animal mistreatment over the holidays. This is the time of year that people forget that animals need as much care as we do. They aren’t, and never will be, just a ‘Christmas gift’.

3.       You might confuse people

Please be aware that for most people, Buddhism isn’t the norm, especially in Western countries. Try not to lose your mind with people asking you why you aren’t celebrating Christmas the same way they are. Be patient, and try to be informative about what you believe and why you believe it.

Other than that folks, have a very Merry Christmas! Spread as much cheer as you can! (That goes for the rest of the year as well though)

~Avazen

What's a Buddhist's typical day? [by anekspekted]

anekspekted asked:

I was never near a buddhist culture, so I would like to know what a typical day of buddhists are. And also, given that buddhists respect all living beings, I presume buddhists are vegan. Is that so? Thank you for answering, it means a lot to me.

It would be too general a statement to say that all Buddhists are vegan. I myself eat meat, although I try to limit it, purely because it was something I was brought up on and it’s not an easy thing to shake.
But it’s completely up to the individual person how rigidly they follow their Buddhist practises. You’ll find that some monks wear masks over their mouths to prevent them eating flies or small bugs accidentally. Is this a practise that most Buddhists follow? No chance. But does that mean those who don’t are evil for allowing these small bugs to die in such I way? I don’t think so, not personally.

As for the typical day of a Buddhist, again it is down to the individual. I’d say the majority try to incorporate a good portion of (generally) the morning or the evening to meditation and then whatever else they involve in their practise. Whether it be yoga, or something similar. Most Buddhists, especially western ones, will just apply Buddhist teachings to their normal, everyday lives.

As for monks, that’s a whole different kettle of fish.
Here’s a couple of links which show the average day for a Tibetan and Thai monk, which I found very interesting:

http://tibetansponsorship.org/sera-jey-monastry/a-day-in-the-life-of-a-monk/

http://www.thaiworldview.com/bouddha/bouddha3.htm

  I hope this has been of some help to you :)

~Avazen

How do you practice Buddhism? [Asked by Anonymous]

Anonymous asked:

How do you practice Buddhism? Are there certain diets? Prayer times? Medatation? Etc. Just a basic understanding. New follower. Thanks ~H

Hey there!

The strange thing about Buddhism is there’s no ‘right way’ to practise it. It’s all dependant on what results you want from it.

If we were to look at a pretty average lay Buddhist, a western Buddhist with an interest in the faith, there would probably be about 45 minutes of meditation a day maximum. Many will exceed this, but most will undercut it and meditate perhaps 5-15 minutes in the morning and at night and nothing more. That’s mainly because Buddhism is trying to integrate itself in a life already take up with jobs, children, pets etc.
If we were to look at a Tibetan Monk’s daily schedule however, the meditation and prayer times are well in the hours.

Here’s a link to a Thai monk’s average day:
http://www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/buddhistworld/wat_m5.htm

As for a Buddhist diet, this ranges anywhere from steaks, to hardcore veganism. There are plenty of Buddhists in the world who eat meat, and it doesn’t mean they’re bad Buddhists. It’s all down to your moral compass and what you feel comfortable doing. Most monks will be vegetarian or vegan, but that doesn’t mean you m suddenly have to overhaul your life and ditch all the milk and eggs in your fridge. However, if that is what you want to do to achieve your goals, then be my guest! You’ll probably feel better for it!
I’m sorry if this has been a bit vague, if you have anymore questions for me don’t hesitate to ask :)
 
This link also might help you!

http://m.wikihow.com/Become-a-Buddhist

Metta,

~Avazen

Buddhism and Capital Punishment

This one may seem like a bit of a no brainier, but is still a question posed to members of the Buddhist community. What is the Buddhist view on capital punishment?

Capital punishment is another way of describing the death penalty; the act of killing a human being based on the crime(s) that they have committed. It is a punishment that has been carried out by almost every society throughout history as a punishment for criminals and was more often than not accompanied by torture. As it stands today, 36 countries still carry out the death penalty, whilst 103 have completely abolished it. An additional 50 have not used it for at least ten years.

From a Buddhist point of view, we need look no further than the first of the five precepts to get an idea of what the Buddhist view on this is:

"Abstain from injuring or killing all living creatures."

Buddhist doctrines hold non-violence and compassion in absolute paramount, but as with all religion, there are those who can misinterpret their own doctrines, and resort to extremist means.

The Buddha never spoke about capital punishment directly, but it can be assumed from the lessons he taught, that he had zero support of it.

"An action, even if it brings benefit to oneself, cannot be considered a good action if it causes physical and mental pain to another being." - The Buddha

As far as punishment itself goes, Buddhism teaches that the inhumane treatment of an offender does nothing to solve their misdeeds, nor does it truly benefit the punisher or humanity in any way. A punishment given should only be given to the extent required to make amends.

Of course, it is not only the offender we need take into consideration. The person administering the punishment will be doing more damage to themselves than they are aware. If you consistently carry out evil, damaging actions, you will find yourself harming yourself in such a way that you will become bitter, twisted and hateful in nature. The Buddha said:

"Holding onto anger is like holding onto a hot coal with the intention of throwing it at someone. You are the one who gets burned." - The Buddha

And this statement is true for any negative feeling you may be holding towards another person. The longer you hold on to those feelings, and the more you fuel fires of hatred and anger, the more damage you will be doing to yourself.

Despite the Buddha's teachings, however, largely Buddhist countries like Thailand still continue to use the death penalty. Many countries still do this out of popular public opinion, reaction to political unrest, or possibly worst of all, tradition. Apparently a long history of blood and violence is justification to keep doing the same.

Conclusion

All in all, despite the differences in opinion over various cultures, we can comfortably say from a Buddhist point of view that Capital punishment is against the five precepts, and against Buddhist culture. All life is sacred, and all human beings have the capacity for redemption.